Have you ever wondered why your friend who you have known for a long time all over a sudden does not remember who you are or is very casual with you on the phone? Have you wondered what happened between the two of you and tried to explain yourself, and he gets it all, but does not seem to hold the same feeling of excitement as you are? Now try that three times getting the same reaction or more of an obvious pretence that he is cool with you? Well, if your answers are yes to all these then there is a higher possibility that you are stuck in the past and need a reality check to move on. This is exactly the situation I found myself in a few months ago. I met a friend who was so excited to see me. He was the one who spotted me first on the street. We took a few minutes to catch up and soon got down into the old good days memories. We exchanged phone number to connect at a later date. I did call the next day; just to say high and to tell him how excited I was to see him and to find a good time for us to meet. He did not seem to know who it was though admitting that he knew me. I tried this several times and the last time we spoke he sounded as though he really was not getting what I was saying. Well I felt bad because we were buddies, from school, very tight buddies. However, this was many years ago, over 15 to be exact and I just realized that this guy must have changed by now, maybe married with several children, a boss or a servant somewhere. May be he became a Christian along the way may be converted to another religion or better still he became a Kenyan and patriotic one for that matter not wanting to associate with anyone who will make him chose between brothers, friends or enemies. I then realized that the truth may be that I am just stuck in the past and I need to embrace reality that things do not remain as they are. The difference between yesterday and today is huge let alone one year and to expect that there be no difference in a span of 15 years is insane. This led me to entertain the idea that I might be insane.
My friends are my friends and I want to remain friends with them, it is better to be stuck in friendship that in loneliness. Friendship makes the world a better place, transitioning we are to a better place but, even between transit points the experience of friendship and friends makes the journey less stressful and insane I will be by choosing to be stuck with you as a friend. You are a friend who makes me stick in time and help me journey through time into eternity.
He called me as I was writing this and said that he remembers, but he sounded drunk. It was in middle of the day, and I thought to myself, “Maybe I need a different reality check which does not require me to move on alone”.
“A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother”. Proverbs 18:24
(This is a picture of Tara, Foulata's Daughter. She has two siblings Sonia and Sam)
